You guys, babies are hard!!!! I am exhausted.
Yes, they are a blessing, of course. But they're hard!
For those of you who don’t know, it is super hard for me to share personal things about myself; some might even venture to say that I am extremely private. But I am going to make myself uncomfortable for the greater good and share a bit with you. Perhaps even overshare. Who knows! Let’s see where this takes us.
I became a mommy for the third time four weeks ago. We have two incredible girls and we just added our first baby boy to the mix. He arrived a touch early (37.5 weeks) and he wasn’t happy about it! He came into the world a little grumpy aaaand he’s pretty much stayed that way. Well, maybe not always grumpy, but he sure is a serious soul. When he looks at you, he REALLY looks at you. I may feel a little judged.
I don’t blame him for being a bit of a grumps…the delivery didn’t go as expected (does it ever?); it was traumatizing for both of us. But we’re here and that’s what matters!! Although he and I may or may not be holding a grudge, still. Okay, so maybe I’m a little grumpy, too. Don’t get me wrong, the doctors were amazing and we wouldn’t be here without them. It was just one of those things, and we’re still recovering. I’m soooo glad I live in 2017 and not 1917. Modern medicine certainly can be miraculous!
I am sharing all of this with you because I am reminded why Linda and I decided to care for and specialize in women’s health, especially those who are post-partum. Like I said, babies are hard, people!!! Forget about trying to physically recover from growing and carrying a HUMAN in your body (such an incredible concept if you take time to really mull it over) or recover from the birthing process itself, or even adjusting to the changes your body goes through post-partum. Babies are wonderful little miracles…and they run the show. During the last four weeks, I was reminded why mothers need to be cared for, physically, mentally and emotionally. Because we won’t do it ourselves and even the most loving support system can’t read our minds. We pour our entire being into that new baby (and our other family members, too…and possibly even work, etc.) and then feel completely drained without a reliable way to regenerate. Our health can seriously suffer. Click here to read about what one mamma needed (most of us probably do), but couldn't ask for.
As the mother of a newborn, your own wellbeing falls to the wayside. It is hard to make sure even your basic needs are met. If you add in the care of additional siblings, work and life in general...well, it can be a recipe for complete exhaustion at best. But our bodies and psyche require healing that we don’t allow. Check this article out to learn how long it REALLY takes to recover from having a baby. You probably won't believe it!
Another incredible resource is the 4th Trimester Project, which you can access here. They can also be found on Facebook @4thTrimester Project.
If you are looking for more, we are having our last free Birthing Injuries and Pelvic Floor Dysfunction Open Clinic for the year. Come let us take care of you…if you are experiencing pain, incontinence or even prolapse, let us help. Each person will be seen in a private room, we’ll discuss your symptoms and some possible solutions. As a mom, you absolutely have to take care of yourself. Your little one(s) and familyneed you. Heck, you need you.
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You guys, babies are hard!!!! I am exhausted. But so grateful.